Rejection Recovery Plan

The devastation.

Getting rejected is like surviving an earthquake:  your foundation is shaken, you might get tossed about like a rag doll, treasured things are crushed and lost, and you don't know what to do once the blunt force is over.  Then you're expected to begin clean-up ASAP at a time where you're not feeling so steady on your feet.

Below are some ideas for that clean-up phase after a rejection.  The bottom line is to take some time as you lick your wounds, but stay out of the debris of self-pity.

1. Focus on what you have.

Take inventory of what you still have in your life. The people, the passions or hobbies, the sometimes taken-for-granted things like a roof over your head and that you don't have to go hungry.

Tapping into gratitude like this helps to put what happened into perspective and to prevent overwhelm.

2. Believe that it's not all about you.

For real.

It's easy to fall into the trap of over-thinking that 1) there's something wrong with you; 2) there must have been something you could have done to prevent this from happening; or 3) you failed at something, for example, if you didn't get a promotion.

Keep in mind that the decision that was made for you isn't only about you:   The other person may have his or her own self-doubts. There are things from the past he or she has not moved on from yet. Or that person may simply be looking for something or someone else.

Your Self-Esteem Toolbox

3. Strengthen your foundation.

Even if you have a healthy amount of self-esteem, you're not immune from the sting of rejection.  In difficult times, you'll need to dig into that toolbox containing your inner strengths, talents and abilities so to rebuild and strengthen your sense of self.

Doing so builds resilience.  Pick yourself up, find the lesson in the pain, make necessary adjustments, and move forward.

You survived this earthquake.  Equally as important, however, you're more ready for when the next one hits.

 

Source:  The Positivity Blog 

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(c) Robyn King. All Rights Reserved.

How much do you love yourself?

"You, yourself--as much as anybody else, as much as anyone in the entire universe--deserve your love and attention." (Prince Gautama Siddhartha)

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What exactly IS self-esteem?

• The judgment or opinion in which you value yourself, your abilities, your skills, and your accomplishments
• Confidence in the way we think and cope with life's challenges
• Confidence in our right to be happy and successful
• The belief that we are deserving, and entitled to assert our needs and desires

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Within ourselves, we have:

• Destructive voices
• Memories, unconscious and conscious of failure
• Fear
• Self-doubt
• Self-sabotage

  

Ways to improve self-esteem:

• Surround yourself with good friends who think highly of you
• Focus on your positive attributes, skills and accomplishments
• Follow the example of people you respect and admire
• Positive, supportive self-talk
• Consistently exhibit a good attitude
• Dress well, good hygiene
• Work toward accomplishments instead of perfection
• Forgive yourself for past mistakes; mistakes are learning opportunities
• Set SMART goals
• Take care of yourself:  get adequate rest, exercise regularly, eat right, have fun!
• Volunteer, do for others
• Accept that which you cannot change

Want to know how you measure up?  Click on the link below and take the Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale:

Rosenberg Self-Esteem Scale

(c) Copyright 2014 Robyn King.  All Rights Reserved.

(c) Copyright 2014 Robyn King.  All Rights Reserved.